Relationships after having a baby. 💞

 

Becoming a parent often puts a strain on relationships, regardless of what they were like before. Part of the problem is that you're tired and have so much less time to spend with your partner than you did, before the baby arrived.

It's a lot harder to go out together and enjoy the things you used to do. Your partner may feel left out, and you may resent what you see as a lack of support. But the stage when babies and children take up all your physical and emotional energy doesn't last forever.

Make time for each other when you can. Do little things to make each other feel cared for and included. If you're having your first baby, you may feel lonely and cut off from your old life. Your partner can't give you everything you used to get. You need other people in your life for support, friendship and a shoulder to cry on.

Take time to listen to your partner..

However close you were before the baby was born, your partner can't read your mind. Both your lives are changing, and you have to talk about it.

You and your partner need to tell each other what you want and what's bothering you if you're resentful, angry or upset. Do not play the blame game. You both are equally responsible for anything and everything happening to the child. Understand the situation being in one's shoes. Just don't keep advising things. 

Be honest about what you need: do you need a hug or to feel understood?

Ask a friend or relative to babysit so you can have time together, even if it's just for a walk in the park. Share the housework so you can have more time together. Share the childcare duties, too. It's important to talk about how you want to bring up your children. You may find you don't agree on basic matters like discipline and attitudes.

Find a way of dealing with these issues without disagreeing in front of your child.